Christmas Shopping – are you an early starter or a late finisher?
Let’s face it, some people like shopping and others don’t. But whether you have already done your Christmas shopping is less likely to be about whether you enjoy shopping, and more likely to relate to your personality. Some people, like the ones in this article, like to get it done early, and for them this avoids stress. Others can’t get interested until there is some time pressure.
Whether you are an early starter or a late finisher is a difference that can lead to misunderstandings and conflict between people who live or work together – and not just over Christmas shopping.
Here are some signs that you might be an “early starter”:
- When there is a new project (at work or at home), you like to get started on it straight away. You may feel stressed at the beginning until you have made a start. You like to get work finished before the deadline. You enjoy the feeling of completion.
- When a decision needs to be made, you like to get it decided quickly. You are not keen on changing a decision once made. You like to have a plan and stick to it.
- You prefer to get jobs done at home before you give yourself time off to enjoy yourself.
- You may have a directing style of communication and are comfortable telling people what to do.
Here are some signs that you might be a “late finisher”:
- When there is a new project (at work or at home), you like to explore all the options for how to go about it before you start. You may feel excited at the beginning. You enjoy the feeling of starting. You get a burst of energy coming up to a deadline and you meet it (just).
- When a decision needs to be made, you tend to put it off until the last minute, as more information may come in. You will change a decision if the information changes. Your plans may change from day to day.
- You can take time off to enjoy yourself before getting all your jobs done at home.
- You may have an informing style of communication and are comfortable giving information to other people and letting them make their own decisions about what to do.
Of course, none of us is completely all one and none of the other and how we behave is also determined by our upbringing and the situation. But it is useful to know where your balance lies, especially if you are living or working with someone who is different from you. Being an early starter or late finisher will influence many day to day behaviours such as:
- how you spend your time at weekends
- how you make decisions about holidays
- when you expect your children to do their homework
- how you manage and organise your work
There is plenty of scope for conflict with your work colleagues or family and friends in all of these situations! For tips on how to manage conflict see my book #HowtoGetonwithAnyone. Order on Amazon or Waterstones