Yesterdays Guardian had an article on resilience https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/nov/24/im-a-survivor-how-resilience-became-the-quality-we-all-crave
It’s quite a long article – here are the highlights that resonated with me.
Different strategies work for different people for different situations, so have a variety of ways to build your resilience, not just relying on one.
Build up all your resources – emotional, mental, physical, spiritual – look after all these aspects of yourself. At this time of year in the UK it’s easy to not get that exercise and time in nature that’s so good for us.
Set small goals, and reward yourself when you achieve them, don’t be too hard on yourself. At the end of the week, month, or year, look back on what you have managed to do.
And the best tip of all, ask yourself: Is what I am doing helping or harming me? Thinking about what you’re missing – that holiday you had booked, that wedding you were going to, those nights at the pub with friends, the fun of Christmas past – doesn’t help. Focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t and be inventive with how you spend your time. There are plenty of holidays, weddings, nights out and Christmases yet to come.
