Holidaying Fast and Slow
One of the differences between people’s personality styles is how they use time – whether they have a quick use of time, and speak and move fast, or whether they have a more sustained use of time and speak and move more slowly. (Remember speed has nothing to do with intelligence!).
This difference between people can lead to tensions on holiday (and at work too of course) – the fast movers get frustrated at having to wait for others to catch up, while the slower movers feel rushed to action without thought.
A couple of years ago we went on a group holiday to India with another couple and amongst the four of us, we have every style – our friends have the more extraverted Mobiliser and Energiser styles, and we have the more introverted Navigator and Synthesiser styles.
There were noticeable differences in how the four of us behaved which are typical of these styles.
- Our friends had a quicker use of time than us – they were quicker to be ready to go out, quicker to move on from one thing to the next, keen to pack in lots of activities and generally took less time than we did in whatever they were doing. We tended to linger over things and spend more time on them.
- They were more eager to talk to other people in the group – especially the Energiser, who constantly looked for opportunities to interact with others, bring them into the conversation, and help them if they needed it. While we were happy to join in with others, we also needed more quiet time than they did.
- They had researched the holiday, had a list of the sights they wanted to see and organised their time so they saw them. We were a little more laid-back, experienced things as they arose, didn’t want to rush – and didn’t fit in all the sights. (In MBTI terms, they both had J preferences, so this behaviour may reflect that preference).
Being aware of differences in how you like to use time can help a holiday with others go smoothly. Rather than feeling you are constantly waiting around for the others, or conversely being rushed from one thing to the next, you can do something about it ahead of time – for example by agreeing times to be ready and arranging to do some, but not all, activities together.
That way, whether you like to holiday fast or slow, you can make the holiday a success for everyone.